3 Years

[rj]

It's coming up on three years since Davy passed away and I still can't believe it.  I'm not sure why this still bothers me so much, but it does.  I find myself listening to his/their music and occasionally getting bummed out thinking about it.  But then as well, it brings really fond memories and makes me find joy in remembering all of this from the 60's.  I have no "claim" on him.  I didn't know him personally.  I only met him once.  I was a fan for over 45 years but not a member of his family and I can't imagine the grief they all feel.  No, yes I can because we have all lost a family member that we were close to.  Sometimes I think it's because I have lost one, if not the biggest part of my teen years and I'm getting older.  I will never forget when I heard.  I really don't believe in weird things happening for the most part but my adult son was sitting as his computer about noon-ish and all he said was "Ohhhhh, you're not going to like this."  I swear to God, the first thing that popped into my mind was that Davy was gone.  I can't explain it.  I wasn't on forums at the time/not spending all my time on the internet or Facebook pages about the Monkees.  Right out of the blue--but that is the first thing that popped into my mind and when I said "What?" thinking the worst,  He said that Davy had died.  

[Admin]

Sigh...where did the time go? In some ways it feels like a snails pace and other days, lightening quick.

Next year will be a leap year so that will be an extra sad anniversary.

Everything has been such a whirlwind after his death- Mike coming back into the fold, tours, conventions, wonderful friendships made and the crazy making folks in fandom too.

[sandee123]

It is hard to believe its been three years, but I think I have mourned and moved on in a way.  I also remember the day I heard the news he had passed away, turned on the tv and FOX had a news alert, friends were calling to see if I was ok. We all lose people that we care about in our lives, Davy was someone that brought music and happiness to me as a child but now as a grown woman I have moved on, you keep a part of him and the memories he gave you in your heart though.  I have been in and out of fb groups since his death, it was a place to go to mourn his loss with others who had that same connection but today three years later its scary, many haven't gotten over his pasting and some still think he's around, there's some strange groups out there too, it is to me kind of sad, I would think he wouldn't want people still feeling his loss three years later, he would want everyone to live their lives to the fullest.

[rj]

I agree Sandee.  I've mourned Davy's passing and moved on as well, although I still feel bad about it and think it should have been preventable.  I guess what I meant was that I have been "mourning" the fact that I'm in my 60's and I miss those carefree times, ha!   That's why I enjoy going to the concerts, and not just the Monkees, but other artists from the 60's and 70's.  I LIKE that music.  Our little town has brought a bunch of acts every summer for an outdoor concert that have been a lot of fun to go see.  No Monkees, but we've had The Guess Who, Three Dog Night, Beach Boys, Chicago etc.  The Guess Who was one of my favorite ones (minus Burton Cummings, but the new guy was great).

[sandee123]

Oh yes rj I do think it was preventable too, sometimes I wonder if he really cared, he was doing what he loved and running around with people quite a bit younger than him so he probably thought he had years left.  We say him in concert for the 45th anniversary in June and personally I didn't think he looked good, he seem to have trouble moving around, I cringe when people say how healthy and good he looked, he wasn't healthy or didn't look good to me, when look at videos I think to myself that maybe he should of "retired", enjoy spending the time he missed out of being with his family when he was so busy but I think entertaining was all he knew and came before family just like the horses did. The more I have read about him I sometimes think he didn't have the happiest of lives and most of it was through his own doing. Oh we have seen many concerts too, we live near a big city so there is always someone in town, in April we are going to see Neil Diamond, can't wait!!! I forgot to post this, this was a picture posted in many fb groups recently and so many ladies were saying how hot and sexy he was, sorry as a friend said to me its awful, she wants to remember the Davy she feel for back in the 60's.

[buttercupkitty50]

Meow,

I've read and respect everything y'all have written.

I,  too, have moved on, but not from David Jones. I will always love him in a very special way that does not include Davy Jones, Monkee.  For I believe Davy Jones, Entertainer, killed David Jones and those surrounding him let it happen.  Nobody begged him to have major surgical treatment for his heart disease, and it was kept from us fans.  But I'm not pointing fingers at anyone but him.  He needed to care more about himself off-stage, and it appears he didn't.  He allowed Davy Jones to take over his entire life, and Davy ignored the Angina that was a warning of what was ultimately coming the next day.  I cry dry tears for him, his Girls, and his grandkids. 

And I cry for me, as I was too intimidated to try and reach past JP's controlling dominance to let him know I really cared about him. 

Thus, I don't watch Youtube Davy, or old Monkees episodes, or Davy videos from any decade except 2011-2012. 

And I'm very glad he is no longer with JP.  Tragic that he had to leave the earth to get totally away from her and her bully brother. 

I'll bet Manager beat him, too.  Just speculating, but no proof. 

    

"My Davy" was a 66 year old man and had a paunch due to severe heart disease. I didn't know young Davy, and felt he was too pretty for me. 

When I met him in 1989, I had real feelings for him, but he was married and I don't chase other women's husbands. So, I got my autograph and stopped being a fan.  Cause I'm not a stalker, either.  When I saw on the 'Net he'd divorced Anita, I became interested again.  But never had the opportunity to meet him again, and then got disabled in 2003. 

Marriage to him was probably not in my destiny....but I would have loved to have been a special friend and share warm hugs and kisses. 

So I'll love him forever.  And hope to see him in Heaven.

These are the reasons I am not a Monkees fan anymore.  When Davy passed away, I realized I didn't like any of the others like I'd loved Davy.

And I bet a thousand sinks we never find out what was in his Will.....

Purr.