Are You Trying To Date Davy Jones

[rj]

I ran across this by accident--boy does this strike home, LOL!  At least for those of us who find themselves single again.


www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-copeland/davy-jones_b_3769207.html

[sandee123]

I am married and have been for 26 years but after reading and finding out so much about him I do think he would of been the kind of guy I would of stayed clear of.  He was very different on the inside than he was on the outside to me.

[buttercupkitty50]

Meow,

I agree, Sandee123, but I would have liked to have been his friend, though not "with benefits".

I'm not his type.  I think his type of female had long dark hair, slim build, exactly his height w/o heels or shorter, a free-love attitude, and open to whatever he wanted.  And I don't believe he'd marry, unless she got pregnant. 

I think he was satisfied with just living together, and if he fell out of love, it was over.

I think he loved the one he was with, but had his own definition of adultery.

I'm surprised he spent some Christmas Day's all alone.  You'd think he had spent them with at least one set of daughters. 

I wonder how many fans he dated.

I need a man who is by my side.  Davy/David was a here today, gone tomorrow, and if you couldn't follow...Mr. see-you-later, baby.

And sometimes he even forgot your name.  No matter how intimate you'd been with him.

Purr.

 

[sandee123]

yes bc I agree with you friend that's it would be my feeling too.  I remember reading were he commented about his divorce from Linda saying he had planned on being married forever but it didn't work out that way, I do think in the first marriage he did have good intentions of being a husband/father but then shortly after that his career stalled and he more or less checked out as he said, and he did say the divorce was terrible and he very unhappy but he understood it was his fault for not working on his marriage and not being at home which in essence was true, he never commented as to why his other marriage or relationships ended. I think when you were in a relationship with him it was on his terms and true when any feelings he may of had were gone your gone, although I do think he was more or less looking for someone to take care of him and it all relates back to losing his Mom at such a young age to me but I think he always loved women and it had to be a sticking point in relationships with him unless you were around him 24/7.

[buttercupkitty50]

Meow,

I think, if Davy had found a woman who was at least 10 years older than Talia, (or 10 years younger than Davy) and she'd had a portable career (Paul Williams' wife is a mystery writer), then they would have been a happy couple. 

Agatha Christie was a successful mystery writer, and she was also able to always travel with her second husband, Max Mallowan, who was a famous archeologist. 

Davy wanted to mentor an up and coming performer.  He kept trying to mentor Annabel, but she wouldn't let him.  So, he decided to try with JP and the rest is a tragedy.

Purr.

 

[rj]

I agree with the age thing BK.  But the mentoring, not so much.  I think he was just experiencing the age old mid-life crisis.  As long as he acted like he could advance her pathetic career she was happy and gave him what he wanted.  And really, who wouldn't of you were him?  It's easier for men to grab a young woman and people accept it.  But a woman latching onto a guy who is 30+ years younger would be laughed at.

[sandee123]

I agree rj, personally I think it had to be hard for him growing old, going from the fresh faced teen idol to the "old" man, he was always very self conscious to me about his appearance so I would think it had to be difficult, yep, the typical male mid-life crisis.  I don't think he really mentored her but allowed her to dance in his shows and the Monkees shows until she was asked not to anymore, its easier to accept a older man/younger women than the older woman/younger men scenario that's surely is true.

[buttercupkitty50]

Meow,

rj & Sandee,

After reading y'all's posts, I must agree with your opinions.  He probably thought JP was old enough in life experience to handle his age, as she'd also been married/divorced 2 times and traveled all over the world with her dance company.  Still very sad that she was waaay too young in other ways.  I think she's moving on.  Her FB page is mostly about her club performances.

You just can't replace what each decade teaches you with an Internet search.  I'm 52, and there is knowledge I have that I could only have gotten in my 40's.  I think Davy forgot that one must live through those type of experiences.  At 30 years old, JP just didn't have the necessary knowledge a 50 year old woman would have in her character.  And a 50ish year old woman would have been a better partner for a 60ish year old man, celebrity or non.  Going through menopause alone would have taught JP how to deal with Davy's male menopause.  A few psychology classes wasn't enough.  And his dyeing his hair brown only made them look even more tragic.

Davy needed someone like Micky's wife, Donna.  I think she is around 56 to Micky's 69.  They appear to have a good relationship.

I wonder if Davy ever thought about trying to reconcile with Linda?

Purr.

 

[rj]

I wondered that too about Linda.  He always spoke fondly of her.  But since she was the one that wanted the divorce I would doubt that she would have been interested in it.  

[sandee123]

Yes he always spoke lovingly and fondly of her, I think things would of been so different for him if they were still together, I remember a cute article it was something like the reasons David Loves Linda back in those teen mags, he said she took care of him, made him go to the doctor even if it was just for a cold, the type of person he needed in his life during those later years.